We take just about everything for granted these days. We don't think twice about flipping on a switch and having lights until the power goes out. We get in our car, turn it on and drive off without thinking about it, until the car won't start. We load the dishwasher and hit start, never even thinking about the convenience.
When two people are first married, they notice all the little things the other does for them. The longer a couple is married, the less those little things are noticed. Before I go much further, I do want to say this isn't a matter of the other needing things from the other. Barb Wire Man and I neither on need each other. He has and is perfectly able to take care of himself in every way. I do not need Barb Wire Man - I have, and can take care of myself in every way. But, I suppose this is a little rant.
I'm talking about the little things we do each day to make the other feel special, or to help make their life a little easier.
I work each day. Yes, I stay at home to work, but I do work. During the school year, I babysit. Contrary to what some believe, I do not sit on the couch while they watch TV. I hardly sit down throughout the day! We play, and sing all day. I change diapers constantly (literally about 18 a day!), cook breakfast and lunch for them, make them snacks, and even help potty train. Essentially, I am their mommy from 7:30 in the morning until 5:00 or later in the evening. And I love it! Financially, I could take care of myself and my kids, and I intend to keep it that way. On top of my job, I still have everyday household chores. Barb Wire Man is old fashioned in the sense that he believes it is the woman's job to care for the home, and he got lucky enough to marry a woman who believes the same! I do all the laundry. I do all the cooking. I do all the cleaning. I go to the grocery store alone. I wash his favorite coffee cup every day, and if I don't for some reason, he'd rather skip coffee than wash it himself! I make sure he has plenty of snacks in his semi. I do all the banking and bill paying. I take the trash out when he..."forgets". I take care of the garden. I rub his back. I bathe and take care of the kids. I do these things because I feel like it is my job, but also because I know Barb Wire Man is tired.
Barb Wire Man goes to work everyday, and sometimes, has some pretty funky hours. In fact, today, he left our house at 1:30 in the morning. When he gets home from work, Barb Wire Man's "duties" include taking out the trash (if I haven't already), mowing the lawn (once a week at most), and......and......and....yeah, I have nothing else to add.
I do not mind doing all the things I do around the house. I know my husband is tired after a long day at work, but sometimes, he fails to realize that I am tired from work, too. He sometimes fails to see that we both have jobs, but that on top of my job, I have work! Occasionally, it would be nice to hear a thank you from Barb Wire Man. It would be nice to hear "Let me help you with supper tonight!" Or even "I know you've been working all day, too, let me help you fold the laundry."
He takes for granted all the little things I do for him, like, washing that stupid coffee cup for him. I do it to be nice to him. To do a "little something" to make his day better.
We have to remember to never take the little things for granted.
Tell your spouse thank you for all the little things they do to make your life easier.
Better yet, help your spouse with those things. We are supposed to be a team, right?!
Be blessed today!
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